What is Your Self Talk?
Most of us love to hear the rags to riches story because it gives us a belief that the average person can make it. It’s part of the American dream, that opportunities are out there and if we work hard, it could be us. It does make us wonder why some make it and some do not.
You may have experienced watching the infomercial shows that were on in the 1980’s with real estate gurus telling you how with no money down you could make a killing or the people that were telling you how to invest in the stock market. I was one of those people who watched and hoped that I could learn something that would work. Unfortunately for me, they did not work for me.
Have you ever wondered why some people just seem to have a gift for making the right moves at the right time?. Were they lucky enough to have parents that were perfect and taught them the skills and a way of thinking that made it so much easier for them to win at anything they tried? Was it that they were lucky to have a better education than you?
Do you know people that had perfect parents who gave their kids everything and they still messed up? So it seems that the notion of having perfect parents may not have been the key to having them live a more successful life every time. So what is the difference? What is it that is so elusive?
Life Experiences and Choices
Let me tell you a couple of stories that will help illustrate how individuals were able to overcome obstacles, perhaps even more than we’ve experienced ourselves. What would you think the chances would be for a girl born to a 14 year old unwed mother born in poverty in a rural area of Mississippi. and at age 9 to 13 she was sexually abused by men relatives.. What kind of emotional scarring would that have done to this poor girl?
At age 14 she had had enough and ran away and was picked up to go to juvenile hall.only to find they had no more beds and she was out on the street fending for herself. She became promiscuous and became pregnant. She ended up losing her little boy.
After that she went to live with her father. Her father was a strict disciplinarian and expected her to read a book a week and write a report on it.
He expected her to do her best and she lived in a structured environment. It was here that she excelled and became an Honor Student and won awards in oratory and dramatic recitation. This unlikely child became Oprah Winfrey who we all love and admire. What was it in her that she did not accept that she would be ordinary? What experiences helped her see that she was more than the earlier life experiences she endured?
Let me tell you about another individual.. This is in his own words. “My mother had three small children under the age of four; and an alcoholic husband who walked away without ever providing any support. She placed one of my brothers and me in a series of foster homes, while my other brother lived with my grandmother until I was ten years old. This is not a story of pity or blame; it’s precisely what had to take place in order for me to learn about self-reliance first hand.”’ This man is Wayne Dyer who has helped millions of people to not blame their circumstances and become more, take responsibility for their life and start on the journey of personal growth.
When I spoke earlier about people who may have it easy in life, what may be missing in their life is emotional resilience.Trials and tribulations often make a person learn more about what they are made of.
In the lives of children who come from difficult circumstances,if they have a person who was kind and encouraging at some point in their life, their self image can be changed to a more hopeful future.
Start with your self talk
What are the elements that make the difference for people to have success? How you talk to yourself and what your subconscious hears makes a difference. Your thoughts affect the belief you have about yourself. Your belief about yourself affects your identity. The strongest force is our personality is our identity. The way we see our identity needs to match our behavior.
One of the strangest things about our personality is that our identity matches our behavior even if our identity is negative. This negative self talk is directly connected to our self image and our identity. If you have a negative view of who you are then your behavior will follow suit to match the way we feel about our identity. Let’s clarify what I mean about the effects of negative self talk.
There is a huge difference in feeling stupid, doing something stupid, because we all do stupid things at one time or another. If you know you are stupid then everything changes. It may seem like semantics, but it makes a huge difference in how you like your life and what potential you see for yourself
The negative self talk and the belief about who you are colors every single behavior of what you do for the rest of your life. These limiting beliefs totally affect all of our decisions.
How does your self talk show up?
Limiting Belief Examples
You get a 60 on a math test. I’m not good in math and need to figure out something in a career where I don’t need math skills. A limiting belief
English is my second language so I can’t do videos because people won’t understand me. Limiting belief. Examples, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Sylvester Stallone, Ariana Huffington.
What about being 10lbs over weight and you look at your body and say I am fat. Another way to sabotage your identity.
I procrastinate. So sometimes I procrastinate, don’t put yourself in the box as a procrastinator.
I’m always late. How can you switch that around, to being a person that is sometimes late, so your blanket statement doesn’t put you in a box.
Everything turns to crap. Here you need to tell yourself, it’s a temporary setback.
Language affects who you are. You must change your language, your self talk because your behavior will follow. How do you change it? When you hear yourself say something negative, say cancel, cancel that. Don’t allow the negative self talk poison you.
Change your language patterns. As you change your language pattern, you will change your identity and you will start to change.
If this is something you are struggling with, I would like to recommend 2 books. Psycho Cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz and Personal Power II Creative Power by William Walker Atkinson. Both of these books are inexpensive and available on Amazon in Kindle version. There are assignments to help you process and change yourself.
How to make more money from Home
What are the 5 things you must know to make money?
First off you MUST change your negative thoughts about yourself to positive ones. If you are expressing yourself in negative ways about who you are, what you can do, you need to avoid doing that because this is a journey and it doesn’t serve you.
Talking about how broke you are, you don’t have any money creates an energy of lack and no amount of education will be able to improve it. Embrace the journey and don’t sabotage yourself before you get to the finish line.
Recognise that your financial freedom is on its way and you are learning more and more on how to successfully make money from home. Don’t allow yourself to stay in the doom and gloom that you may currently find yourself in.
Change the questions you are asking yourself.
1 How can I make more money while improving my lifestyle and spending more time with my family? Believe that you can do it. No negative questions about what why someone else is luckier than you
2 How can I take my annual income and make it my monthly income?
3 The next question is important. It’s not how do I make more money, but how can I bring more value to the marketplace, solve more problems, be a Solutions Provider.
The 5 things you must know to make money and to live to your potential are listed below and said best by Mahatma Ghandi.
You can only become truly accomplished at something you love. Don’t make money your goal. Instead pursue the things you love doing, and then do them so well that people can take their eyes off you – Maya Angelou
Your mindset matters. It affects everything – from the business and investment decisions you make, to the way you raise your children, to your stress levels and overall well-being. Peter Diamandis
Mahatma Gandhi clearly stated the 5 things you must know to create the greatest potential in your life and to reach your heart’s desire and your destiny.
You Can do it
I know that times are tough right now, but you can do it. You can create the lifestyle of your desires. I am here to assist you. If you got value from this, please comment below.
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