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10 Tips To Be Successful

Success comes from the Inside Out not from the Outside In

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What are the 10 tips for success? It’s not about positive thinking.  How many of us have tried that and not had it work?  (Not that a positive attitude won’t serve you.).  A key to making a change is changing the way you think about yourself. As per Maxwell Maltz of Psycho Cybernetics, , he said ”it is folly to try to put new material over an old garment or putting new wine in old bottles.”   The 10 Tips to be successful are actually the 10 Things you must give up to be successful. You have to undergo some fundamental changes

 

I believe Maxwell Maltz is trying to say there needs to be a fundamental change in how we see ourselves.  If we try to use being positive about a particular situation and we have a negative concept of Self, just being positive may not be enough, if the internal view is negative, it feels fake. Once our Self-concept is changed, we can accomplish tasks easily without strain.

How does a Cosmetic Surgeon discover that changing Looks does Not change the Person?

Maxwell Maltz was a cosmetic surgeon.  He discovered some interesting things that happened to people after cosmetic surgery.  Some had a dramatic turn around when they saw themselves as more attractive. For others, things stayed exactly the same because they saw “no change” in their appearance.  So what is the difference in this Self-image?

What does Self-image have to do with Success?

He discovered that the Self-image needs to be something you can live with that is acceptable to you. You need to not be ashamed of who you are, so you can express yourself freely.  This self- image includes your strengths and your weaknesses, it is a reasonable approximation of “you” being neither more nor less than what you are.

 

Dr. Maltz left cosmetic surgery to work with people to help them with their ”psychological, emotional and spiritual face lift’,  because the change he wanted people to see in themselves would not necessarily come from the change in physical appearance.

 

Why are these concepts of Self-image so important in your success?  As you will read about the 10 things you need to give up (written by Stephen Covey), you can change these things for yourself by making a decision, taking responsibility and putting your intentions into action by consciously applying these principles in your life.  You may not have a mentor that believes in you, and so you’ll need to do these things for yourself.

Examples of Change in Self-image

In my last Blog, I wrote about Self-image and behavior. I gave examples of the trauma and difficult circumstances in which Oprah Winfrey grew up.  She had a change in how she saw herself after moving in with her father.  He was a strict disciplinarian and expected the absolute best that she could give. The change she experienced after being required to read, write, and do well changed her.  Her self- image changed and what she did changed. Remember, I wrote that behavior follows Self-image.

 

I also wrote about Dwayne Dyer in my last post.  He came from difficult circumstances being in foster homes for a number of years before he was reunited with his mother. He said his lesson learned was self-reliance.  He learned from this experience and grew to where through his books and lectures he is now helping millions of people to take responsibility for themselves and to forge a new future.

How does Your Self-talk affect You?

Self-talk is very powerful and can limit who we are and what we are able to accomplish.  We are always hardest on ourselves and the negative Self-talk is a direct sabotage of who we are and where we want to go in our lives. Negative self- talk perpetuates a negative Self-image.  Our own Self-image and what we see as possible for our self; is the most critical factor in our achieving success.

What is My Brother’s Keeper?

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This last weekend I watched a documentary called “My Brother’s Keeper”.  http://thegrio.com/2015/06/16/president-obama-gets-personal-in-my-brothers-keeper-documentary-for-own/  This is a program that President Obama started to help male youths of color gain a new image of themselves so they can become contributing members of society.  He wants to break the patterns of African American, Latino, American Indian boys who may have had very difficult childhood experiences. He wants to give them the opportunity to make big changes in who they are if they are ready and want change for themselves….so that they will become the leaders of our future and not be a statistic of the many youths of color who find themselves in prison.

 

The “My Brother’s Keeper” program is an opportunity for boys that have decided they want something different in their lives  It’s about taking responsibility for themselves and getting help through a hand up that the program provides.

 

In the film, there is an Academy in Chicago where these young men (ages 14 to 18) are going to a school where they are challenged academically and personally to be their best selves.  They wear jackets and ties with white shirts as their uniform.  How do you think these boys see themselves?  In the graduating class they have 100% of the boys going to college.  There are other organizations BAM Becoming a Man, that are working with youth who may have had problems and with the effort of caring adults are turning around the self- image of these boys.  Remember behavior follows image.

 

What are they teaching them?  They have to take responsibility for themselves and their actions.  They may have had some tough breaks, but this is now and they can no longer make excuses for themselves. They are there to learn and get an education and to become better, have delayed gratification to do what is necessary to become better, to be at the top of their game.

 

They need to become more articulate, become a leader, no cursing, no smoking, no fighting.  They have to be ready to make a change.  When they want to make a change, someone is there to help them along to make that change.  It’s never too late to make a change.  Life is a journey, not a straight line, and with the decision that comes from wanting to be better and more, there is always time to make a change. President Obama said “the actions of who we are have to match who we want to be.” The accumulation of our actions is who we are. He went on to say “that the individual must have the internal strength to know what’s right or wrong and to do the right thing.”

Why do I tell you the Story of My Brothers Keeper?

Why do I tell you the story of “My Brother’s Keeper”?  Because we are no different if we want to change our life and our future.  The situation may be different, but we need to take responsibility for ourselves and we need to want to change, and be willing see ourselves as successful.  First off, we need to decide that we need to change:. that we want to be better, that we intend to do better and become more.

10 Things to give up to move forward

 

 

 

 

 

 

Steven Covey in “Seven Habits of Highly Successful People” identified 10 things that we need to give up in order to move forward.  I wanted to outline them here, because it may be easier to see the simple things that will set you on the right path.  It is easy to become overwhelmed and not know where to start.

 

These things will help you to change your Self-image and your developed habits to propel you to where you want to be. If you want to start a business and be successful living these principles will be essential to your success.

 

10 Things you must give up to move forward Stephen Covey

 

#1   Letting the opinions of others control your life

  •  It’s not what others think, it’s what you think about yourself that counts.
  • You have to do exactly what’s best for you and your life, not what’s best for everyone else

 

#2   The shame of failures

  •    Your past does not equal your future.
  •    All that matters is what you do right now.

 

#3    Being Indecisive about what you want

  •    You will never leave where you are until you decide where you want to be.
  •     Figure out what you want and then go after it passionately.

 

#4   Procrastinating on the goals that matter to you

  •     There are two primary choices in life:  to accept conditions as they exist or accept responsibility for changing them.
  •      The best time to plant a tree was twenty years ago.  The second best time is now.

 

#5   Choosing to do nothing

  •       You don’t get to choose when you’re going to die or when.
  •       You can only decide how you’re going to live right now.
  •        Everyday is a new chance to choose

 

#6   Your need to be “right”

  •       Aim for success, but never give up your right to be wrong.
  •        Because when you do, you also give up the right to learn new  things and move forward with your life.

 

#7  Running away from problems that should be fixed

  •       Stop running from what you need to face.
  •       Face these issues, fix the problems, communicate, appreciate, forgive, and LOVE the people in your life that deserve it.

 

#8   Making excuses rather than decisions

  •       Most long term failures are the outcome of people making excuses instead of decisions.

 

#9    Overlooking the positive points in your life

  •       What you see often depends on what you’re looking for.
  •       You will have a hard time ever being happy if you aren’t thankful for the good things in your life right now.

 

#10    Not appreciating the present moment

  •    Too often we try to accomplish something big without realizing that the greatest part of life is made up of the little things.

 

You Can do it

 

I know that times are tough right now, but you can do it. You can create the lifestyle of your desires.  I am here to assist you.  If you got value from this, please comment below.

 

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Johanna Baker

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5 Things you must know to make money

What is Your Self Talk?

Rags To Riches

 

 

 

 

Most of us love to hear the rags to riches story because it gives us a belief  that the average person can make it.  It’s part of the American dream, that opportunities are out there and if we work hard, it could be us. It does make us wonder why some make it and some do not.

 

You may have experienced watching the infomercial shows that were on in the 1980’s with real estate gurus telling you how with no money down you could make a killing or the people that were telling you how to invest in the stock market.  I was one of those people who watched and hoped that I could learn something that would work.  Unfortunately for me, they did not work for me.

 

Have you ever wondered why some people just seem to have a gift for making the right moves at the right time?.  Were they lucky enough to have parents  that were perfect and taught them the skills and a way of thinking that made it so much easier for them to win at anything they tried?  Was it that they were lucky to have a better education than you?

 

Do you know people that had perfect parents who gave their kids everything and they still messed up?  So it seems that the notion of having perfect parents may not have been the key to having them live a more successful life  every time.  So what is the difference? What is it that is so elusive?

 

Life Experiences and Choices

 

Let me tell you a  couple of stories  that will help illustrate how individuals were able to overcome obstacles, perhaps even more than we’ve experienced ourselves.  What would you think the chances would be for a girl born to a 14 year old unwed mother born in  poverty in a rural  area of Mississippi. and at age 9  to 13 she was sexually abused by men relatives..  What kind of emotional scarring would that have done to this poor girl?oprah_gallery1

 

At age 14 she had had enough and ran away  and was picked up to go to juvenile hall.only to find they had no more beds and she was out on the street fending for herself.  She became promiscuous and became pregnant.  She ended up losing her little boy.

 

After that she went to live with her father.  Her father was a strict disciplinarian and expected her to read a book a week and write a report on it.

 

He expected her to do her best and she lived in a structured environment.  It was here that she excelled and became an Honor Student and won awards in oratory and dramatic recitation.  This unlikely child became Oprah Winfrey who we all love and admire.  What was it in her that she did not accept that she would be ordinary? What experiences helped her see that she was more than the earlier life experiences she endured?

 

dwaynedyer Wishes fulfilledLet me tell you about another individual..  This is in his own words.   My mother had three small children under the age of four; and an alcoholic husband who walked away without ever providing any support. She placed one of my brothers and me in a series of foster homes, while my other brother lived with my grandmother until I was ten years old. This is not a story of pity or blame; it’s precisely what had to take place in order for me to learn about self-reliance first hand.”’  This man is Wayne Dyer who has helped millions of people to not blame their circumstances and become more, take responsibility for their life and start on the journey of personal growth.

 

When I spoke earlier about people who may have it easy in life, what may be missing in their life is emotional resilience.Trials and tribulations often make a person learn more about what they are made of.

 

In the lives of children who come from difficult circumstances,if they have a person who was kind and encouraging at some point in their life, their self image can be changed to a more hopeful future.

 

Start with your self talk

 

What are the elements that make the difference for people to have success? How you talk to yourself and what your subconscious hears makes a difference. Your thoughts affect the belief you have about yourself.  Your belief about yourself affects your identity. The strongest force is our personality is our identity. The way we see our identity needs to match our behavior.

 

One of the strangest things about our personality is that our identity matches our behavior even if our identity is negative.  This negative self talk is directly connected to our self image and our identity.  If you have a negative view of who you are then your behavior will follow suit to match the way we feel about our identity.  Let’s clarify what I mean about the effects of negative self talk.

 

There is a huge difference in feeling stupid, doing something stupid, because we all do stupid things at one time or another.  If you know you are stupid then everything changes.  It may seem like semantics, but it makes a huge difference in how you like your life and what potential you see for yourself

 

The negative self talk and the belief about who you are colors every single behavior of what you do for the rest of your life.  These limiting beliefs totally affect all of our decisions.

 

How does your self talk show up?

Limiting Belief Examples

 

You get a 60 on a math test.  I’m not good in math and need to figure out something in a career where I don’t need math skills.  A limiting belief

 

English is my second language so I can’t do videos because people won’t understand me.  Limiting belief.  Examples, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Sylvester Stallone, Ariana Huffington.

 

What about being 10lbs over weight and you look at your body and say I am fat. Another way to sabotage your identity.

 

I procrastinate.  So sometimes I procrastinate, don’t put yourself in the box as a procrastinator.

 

I’m always late.  How can you switch that around, to being a person that is sometimes late, so your blanket statement doesn’t put you in a box.

 

Everything turns to crap. Here you need to tell yourself, it’s a temporary setback.

 

Language affects who you are.  You must change your language, your self talk because your behavior will follow.  How do you change it?  When you hear yourself say something negative, say cancel, cancel that. Don’t allow the negative self talk poison you.

 

Change your language patterns.  As you change your language pattern, you will change your identity and you will start to change.

 

If this is something you are struggling with, I would like to recommend 2 books. Psycho Cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz and Personal Power II Creative Power by William Walker Atkinson.  Both of these books are inexpensive and available on Amazon in Kindle version.  There are assignments to help you process and change yourself.

 

How to make more money from Home

What are the 5 things you must know to make money?

 

First off you MUST change your negative thoughts about yourself to positive ones.  If you are expressing yourself in negative ways about who you are, what you can do, you need to avoid doing that because this is a journey and it doesn’t serve you.

 

Talking about how broke you are, you don’t have any money creates an energy of lack and no amount of education will be able to improve it.  Embrace the journey and don’t sabotage yourself before you get to the finish line.

 

Recognise that your financial freedom is on its way and you are learning more and more on how to successfully make money from home.  Don’t allow yourself to stay in the doom and gloom that you may currently find yourself in.

 

Next Step

Change the questions you are asking yourself.

 

1 How can I make more money while improving my lifestyle and spending more time with my family?  Believe that you can do it. No negative questions about what why someone else is luckier than you

 

2  How can I take my annual income and make it my monthly income?

 

3 The next question is important.  It’s not how do I make more money, but how can I bring more value to the marketplace, solve more problems, be a Solutions Provider.

 

The 5 things you must know to make money and to live to your potential are listed below and said best by Mahatma Ghandi.

 

Valuable Quotes

 

You can only become truly accomplished at something you love.  Don’t make money your goal.  Instead pursue the things you love doing, and then do them so well that people can take their eyes off you – Maya Angelou

 

Your mindset matters. It affects everything – from the business and investment decisions you make, to the way you raise your children, to your stress levels and overall well-being. Peter Diamandis

 

Mahatma Gandhi  clearly stated the 5 things you must know to create the greatest potential in your life and to reach your heart’s desire and your destiny.

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You Can do it

 

I know that times are tough right now, but you can do it. You can create the lifestyle of your desires.  I am here to assist you.  If you got value from this, please comment below.

 

Did I help you? If so I would greatly appreciate your comments below and sharing this on Facebook.

 

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Johanna Baker

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Set up a Google Hangout

 

What is a Google Hangout?  How do I use a Google Hangout?

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A Google Hangout is like Skype.  It’s a way to communicate across the internet where you can see each other, great way to connect with family and friends.

 

Google Hangout  is also useful, because you can also share your computer screen during the Hangout. It can be used as a  training tool that can then be posted to YouTube and be available to many more people..

 

To be able to use Google Hangout, you first must have a Gmail account.  This is easy to get.  Go to https://mail.google.com   .  Google Hangouts can only be done when the person you want to connect with also has a Gmail account. Once you have a Gmail account, you will also need to create a Google+ profile.

 

If you are brand new to Gmail, you will find your name in the upper right hand corner of your Gmail messages, along with a diagram with a number of dots in it.  This diagram is a menu to many more programs within the Google family that you now have access to.  Here you will find the Google+ APP to set up your Profile.

Here are instructions on how to set up your Google Hangout.

 

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Click on Google+ and sign in.  Create a Profile.  Google+ is a lot like Facebook, with a more business minded orientation.

 

Also when you post onto Google+ and it it is connected to Google,  your Posts are more likely to show up in the Searches. When you create your Profile, add your picture so people know what you look like,

 

You will want to add people to your circles and grow your followers, just like in Facebook.

 

Here is info directly from Google on creating a Google Hangout:

 

“With Hangouts, you can send messages, emoji, and photos or start video calls with your friends and family. You can start a Hangout from Gmail, Google+ Page or profile, the Chrome desktop app, your Android or iOS device, Inbox by Gmail, or with the Chrome extension.

You can start a Hangout with anyone you’d like as long as the person has a Google Account. If you start a Hangout with someone who doesn’t have a Google account, an invitation will be sent to their email address asking them to join Hangouts.

Set up a Google Hangout

Start a Hangout conversation or video call

  1. Open Hangouts in Gmail or Google+.
    • Gmail: In the bottom-left corner, click on the Hangouts icon . ”
    • Google+: In the top-right corner, click on the Hangouts icon .”

 

As you just read, look for the symbol with the quotation marks to start a google hangout.  It will be a live link.

 

In this list below are the steps to getting a video Hangout started.

 

  1. Sign in to Google+.
  2. At the bottom of your Hangouts list, click Start a video Hangout.
  3. You’ll see a share box to create your video Hangout. …
  4. You can add specific people or circles, or make the video Hangout public.

 

Once you have a Google Hangout open, you can start inviting people to your hangout.  Once you have opened your Google hangout, you will see a link for the hangout.  This is a link you can send out in an email to people.  You can also put in email addresses or add people from your circles in Google+ to your hangout.

 

When you start your hangout, you will need to decide if you want a live camera shot or block the video where only your picture will show as a static picture.  There are some icons at the top of the hangout that will allow you to have a live picture or a picture of you that you have in Google+

 

You can make a live recording by going to the left side of google plus and scrolling down to Hangouts on Air.  These videos are recorded and will go out on YouTube. These can start Now or be scheduled to start later.

 

The Hangouts on Air feature will allow you to do webinar like training, live training for your team.  All these are searchable on YouTube.

 

When you are finished with your google hangout, click the red hang up button and it will end.

Have fun with this process!

 

Congratulations!!!!!

In Gratitude,

Johanna Baker

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